Unconditional Love
Unconditional love is a hoax. There is no such thing. Every godforsaken relationship, from the love of a father to the love you bear for your pet dog, is conditional. It only takes time to shatter the illusion that the love we bear for others isn't, for one second, selfish. We only love 'unconditionally' when the conditions are right.
Take for instance, you love someone and they don't love you back. One day or another you will realise that their continued refusal to give as much as they receive from you isn't enough. You will want more, and when they don't give you what you want, you will resent them and your so called unconditional love turns to unconditional hate - no matter what they do, you can never learn to love them again.
Another example - your parents. Maybe because you are their own flesh and blood, you can give them a greater buffer period than your disillusioned 21 year old self. But at some point in your life, if you are resolute in your opinions, you will do something that goes against the expectations they placed on you before you were even conceived. You will fight for something that you think is at the core of your being, and when they fight against that very thing that brings you happiness and purpose in life, you will realise that they too are conditional in their love towards you.
Loving God, helping people in need, feeding a stray cat - all of this is to make us feel better.
There is nothing sacrosanct about us or our emotions. We are human, and human means to be flawed. We could go around pretending that we love for the benefit of others, but the reality is that we only ever do anything for our own pleasure. So let's stop living up to false ideals and see love for what it truly is - conditional and contaminated.
Take for instance, you love someone and they don't love you back. One day or another you will realise that their continued refusal to give as much as they receive from you isn't enough. You will want more, and when they don't give you what you want, you will resent them and your so called unconditional love turns to unconditional hate - no matter what they do, you can never learn to love them again.
Another example - your parents. Maybe because you are their own flesh and blood, you can give them a greater buffer period than your disillusioned 21 year old self. But at some point in your life, if you are resolute in your opinions, you will do something that goes against the expectations they placed on you before you were even conceived. You will fight for something that you think is at the core of your being, and when they fight against that very thing that brings you happiness and purpose in life, you will realise that they too are conditional in their love towards you.
Loving God, helping people in need, feeding a stray cat - all of this is to make us feel better.
There is nothing sacrosanct about us or our emotions. We are human, and human means to be flawed. We could go around pretending that we love for the benefit of others, but the reality is that we only ever do anything for our own pleasure. So let's stop living up to false ideals and see love for what it truly is - conditional and contaminated.
Totally agree! No such thing as unconditional love. Love that you're still writing though.
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